Adding Kink To Your Love Life With Bondage Accessories

Adding Kink To Your Love Life With Bondage Accessories

    If you've thought about adding a little (or a lot) of kink into your sex life, we have some super cool bondage kits and items to tell you about. If you like to dress up in costumes and role play, then adding some bondage gear to your arsenal of sex toys will make the experience even more enticing. Adding something small like a blindfold, a flogger for tickling, or even a paddle for a little pain to warm up the tush. It doesn't have to be painful to be bondage or BDSM play, the way you use the tools is up to you and what you're comfortable with.

What is the difference between a paddle, whip, and flogger?

   The first thing that comes to mind usually when people discuss bondage play is the paddle. There are paddles, crops, floggers, and whips. What the heck does all that mean? We'll go over the different types, how they are used and what you can expect from each one. Plus different ways to use them. The paddle comes in different sizes and shapes, typically with a safety wrist strap. Some are padded, made of leather, with wording for imprints, and themed also in kits. The amount of pain will come from how hard they swing, just like any spanking. With imprinted paddles, there will be a "branded" word in the reddening of your hiney. Nothing like knowing your lover is all yours with a little love note on the backside. Crops are thin pieces of material 9usually leather but also synthetic materials) at the end of a long, thin handle. These will leave a slight sting as the contact area is much smaller than a paddle and they need a whip like a snap. Floggers are great for bondage play because they are the most versatile of the group. The flogger is a tassel-type BDSM tool. A flogger is good for running lightly over the skin, to tickle and start foreplay. Working them over erogenous zones like the breast, back, stomach, thighs, and face can be extremely sexy and satisfying. You can also use the flogger to spank and whip your lover with the option of stinging or just teasing. Whips are made typically of leather. They have the shortest handle and a single tassel that will sting, possibly leave welts and if you like, blood. This piece depends greatly on how you use it and making sure the user is trained properly before striking your skin with a whip. 

How many ways can we use a blindfold?

   Blindfolds usually come in bondage kits. They are also sold separately. Blindfolds typically come made from leather and in silk tie straps. This is one piece that is overlooked when it comes to role play and getting into bondage. When you take away your lover's ability to see what's happening, the other senses are heightened. Like smell, taste, and feel. This can be a great opportunity to bond without even having sexual intercourse. Touching each other, eating off each other, massaging each other... without seeing what's next is intensely erotic. Playing music during this type of play can also help with setting the mood. A blindfold is also useful for sleeping, so it can be used in various ways in different aspects of life. Plus, there are some pretty cool themed blindfolds to choose from. They come made from leather, padded, basic, and themed. There's definitely one you will fall in love with. 

Is there a difference in ankle and wrist cuffs?

    Cuffs are a staple when it comes to bondage play. Ankle cuffs are typically made bigger than ankle cuffs. People with smaller-sized ankles may not notice a difference between the two. This also depends on how they are made. Some cuffs are made to fit specific to the area. Bondage tape can also be used to tie the hands and feet, also to cover the mouth and eyes. Tape is easy to remove and isn't supposed to leave any residue when removed. Wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs come in metal designs, padded hook and loop closure, spreader bars, locking, and furry. There are a ton of cool color choices and themes to choose from. Most of them are locking, which adds to the excitement of being secured to the bed frame, over-the-door sex swings, and under-the-bed restraint systems. Spreader bars are great with ankle cuffs as they help support the legs, for longer sessions before the legs start to wear out. At times it can feel awkward not knowing what to do with your legs. Wrist cuffs go well with over-the-door sex swings and restraint systems. Being able to relax the arms will help focus on the pleasure being received. 

Are accessories available for the items I already have?

    Yes, We've touched base on restraint systems and accessories a bit already. Spreader bars, under-the-bed, over-the-door sex swings, and bed frames. Sex cushions are convenient, come inflatable with handles for cuffs. Wedges are smaller, and come in different sizes but may or may not have handles. Not all sex cushions have the handle option. Make sure you read the details if they are something you want on your wedge. A bit about the wedge. It works fantastic for holding your hips at the perfect angle for deeper penetration in a way that is comfortable for you both. Spreader bars will keep your legs open and spread apart. This makes it awesome for allowing the legs to be able to relax leaving you to enjoy the experience. Spreader bars can also be used to secure the arms and hands behind the back. Using a bar may be more comfortable than using rope or bondage tape. Under-the-bed restraint systems secure the feet and arms in an open position using the weight of the mattress to hold everything in place. The system is meant to stay, so they aren't bulky and tuck neatly away under the mattress when not in use. Over-the-door restraint systems are made to secure the arms or a swing style to support the entire body. These use the door to support body weight, closing the straps in the door jamb. 

Is hot wax play dangerous?

   It can be. It's always a good idea to learn how to properly use hot wax play. Hot wax play is sensual and so sexy. Warming the light of the room, adding sexy shadows on the body. Mmmmm, there's something so romantic about a massage. Touching skin on skin, and knowing that the person receiving the massage is feeling satisfied is a bonus. I find giving the massage almost as good as getting one. Almost. I enjoy doing it. Finding a good quality massage oil that is beneficial to the skin will help in case of sensitivities. Edible massage oil candles like Earthly Body are made from natural ingredients which are excellent for even the most sensitive skin. They taste amazing, leaving the skin soft and supple, including hemp seed, like getting a spa-like treatment. It's a good idea to start slow with hot wax play. Practice on yourself at first to get an idea of how it feels to another person. Please, don't simply dump hot wax on any type of skin. It will burn and leave serious injury. It is meant to be dripped, drop by drop. Take time to learn the proper way to use hot wax play. Never leave a candle unattended. Even if you don't use an edible massage candle for hot wax play, it can be used by dipping your fingers in the wax and massaging it onto the skin. 

I'm not sure about using a gag.

     Gags are another item usually found in a BDSM kit. They can be fun to use and come in many different designs. Gags have different styles but they consist of a strap that secures around your head with a ball, an open ring, lips, and themed-in kits. Open ring gags will keep your lips readily available for a penis to enter. The lips add some fun to the experience. Similar to the ball gag, except there's a pair of lips rather than a ball. They come in pink, red and black. The themed gags in the kits offered by OUCH! match the strap on the gag to the theme. 

How can I try a lot of items without spending a fortune?

    OUCH! bondage kits have everything you need to begin your role-play journey. From a sailor, army camo, nurse, old school, tattoo, and art street love graffiti designs. With multiple pieces in each kit, from 6 to 18 piece options. The pieces included in the kits are sold separately if you find you use a few of them and not all of them. Or you may want to add extra pieces to one of the kits. Sex and Mischief also has a great line of BDSM accessories, including collars and leads. Collars are made from a variety of materials with an O-Ring made of stainless steel or aluminum. They come in solid colors, and designs, with wording and spikes. You can probably find a collar you love fairly easily. 

Are harnesses just for fetishes?

     Harnesses are made for men and women. They are usually made from mixed materials that include PU leather and nylon. The O- Rings are typically stainless steel or aluminum. Men's chest pieces come in several hot styles. They can be worn with clothing, without any clothing, and during intimate moments. They are a fetish fashion statement that can be worn to the club or in the bedroom. Men's and women's harnesses usually attach around the chest and torso using buckles. Colors used for men's harnesses include black, blue, and red. Women's harnesses will strap around the breast leaving them exposed. 

   Finding BDSM accessories, using them in your next sexual adventure, and loving them is the beginning of something great in your sex life. Remember BDSM play doesn't have to be painful spankings and extreme temperature play. It can be sensual, passionate, and intense in seductive gentle ways. It's always a great idea to have a safe word set up before beginning a new play. That way all parties are on the same page shall things get steamy and taken a little far. It's easy to get caught up in the heat of the moment. 

 

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